Have you ever tried to get rid of an unconstructive behavior, only to not succeed? There is list of frequent problem behaviors that people often try to change or get rid of using hypnosis. The most common are: Overeating and weight loss; stop smoking; quit chewing tobacco; stop nail biting; increasing self-confidence; overcoming insomnia and sleeping better; improving memory; and managing stress.
WHAT THE MIND CAUSES, THE MIND CAN CURE: The motivation for our behaviors starts in our thoughts. When you stop and think about it, all of these unconstructive behaviors are the product of negative thinking. In other words, you think and motivate yourself into all of these behaviors. Or at least you think yourself into feeling stressed out, and that can be the origin of these behaviors. And since you think and motivate yourself into these behaviors, you can think and motivate yourself out of them as well. But in order to successfully think and motivate yourself out of them, you will need to know specifically how to go about doing so.
DESIRE: You’re most likely reading this expose for the reason that you want the motivation to make some personal changes. And that’s opportune for the reason that the first element in the "Motivation Formula For Your Success" is that you must want or desire to change. If you have read this far, at least a little part of you desires a change.
BELIEF IS REQUIRED FOR MOTIVATION: Before anyone can eliminate a negative behavior, that person must be motivated to do so. Merely wanting a behavior to change is not adequate.
Our motivation comes from what we believe. If we believe that something very important to us will get better or "become enhanced" if we make a change in our behavior, then we will feel motivated. Conversely, if we believe that something very important to us will be placed at risk if we don’t alter our behavior, we will also experience motivation to alter our behavior.
Some plain examples of these motivational beliefs would be:
If I take some weight off, then I’ll be able to find a companion.
If I kick my smoking habit, then I will not have to worry about cancer.
If I stop my nail biting, then my hands will be a lot prettier.
TECHNOLOGIES THAT CAN CREATE THE BELIEFS THAT LEAD TO MOTIVATION: Neuro-Linguistic Programming - which is commonly known as NLP, provides strategies that are able to instantaneously produce the element of belief. You can learn more on this topic by reading the articles "How To Get Motivated To Exercise Using Hypnosis And NLP" and "Motivation Theory - How To Quit Smoking Using NLP And Hypnosis For Motivation." These articles are both available in my free hypnosis research library.
DECISION: The dictionary definition of the word "Decision" is making up one’s mind / a verdict or judgment. When you accept as true an idea that provides you with a powerful feeling of motivation to modify your behavior, you will feel a compulsion to make a decision to eliminate a negative behavior. Decision is the key that unlocks the door to compelling action.
ACTION: The dictionary defines the word "Action" as an act or deed / to do or perform. Taking action means that rather than just thinking about making personal changes, you will actually take action and bring about your desired changes.
SELF-TALK: One of the many reasons that people are unsuccessful at eliminating a negative behavior is because of the way that they talk to themselves. Self-talk is significant because frequently it is an important part of what caused the negative behavior to begin with.
I’d like you to think about this for a moment: Let’s say that you want to stop smoking. The first thing that you might say or think to yourself is: "I’m not going to smoke anymore."
It’s universal for people to tell themselves what they are not going to do. Unfortunately, when we tell ourselves what we are not going to do, we are actually programming ourselves to do it!
SELF-TALK EXERCISE: Say the following to yourself: I can’t see blue. I can’t see polka dots . . . . . . .
I’ll bet your mind showed you the color blue, and then it showed you polka dots. That’s because when we tell ourselves what we do not want to do, or what we won’t do, in order to make sense of it our mind must make a movie of us doing whatever it is that we wish to stop doing. And when we imagine ourselves in a behavior, our mind compels us to generate that behavior.
SUMMARY: In order to modify a negative behavior, we must first want or DESIRE to eliminate it. BELIEF is the element that creates MOTIVATION. MOTIVATION is the drive that compels us to DECISION. DECISION is the means to ACTION. Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a technology that we can use to facilitate beliefs, motivation, decisions, and actions.
When we tell ourselves what we are not going to do, we make a mental picture of ourselves engaging in the behavior that we want to eliminate. And that mental picture gives us a compulsion to generate the negative behavior. So if we want to get rid of a negative behavior, instead of telling ourselves what we will not do, we must always tell ourselves what we will do.
To stop smoking say: "I can live without them."
To eliminate cravings for fattening food or to stop chewing smokeless chewing tobacco say: "I can live without it."
To eliminate stress say: "I’m relaxed and calm, both mentally and physically."
To sleep better say: "I fall asleep promptly, and sleep restfully throughout the entire night."
Alan B. Densky, CH is a certified hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner. He runs the Neuro-VISION self-hypnosis CDs website and the Video Self-Hypnosis Blog. He offers NLP & hypnosis CDs for motivation. Visit the website for his free Hypnosis MP3 downloads, newsletters, and his hypnosis research library.
- Alan B. Densky, CH
If you're new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!
